relationships – Holly Kellums

Being Both Soft and Strong

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You Were Not Built With Parts That Don’t Matter

You can try to chop yourself up, force a square peg into a round hole. But it will be messy and clunky. You can clench your fists and pretend you’re a circle, if you wish, scraping your edges round and raw. For me, however, living this way was miserable and excruciatingly painful.

Buried Ghosts | An Elegy

I know they wrapped you up in all your high school portraits and told the story of your old life, but I remember you. I remember you as you were.

Drama, Drama, Drama

Have you ever had that friend who always has some sort of drama going on? There’s always some life or death problem to be solved and you cannot spend any time with them without it being hijacked by a perceived emergency?

The Gift of Desperation

Sometimes, desperation is a gift. And sometimes it is the most unbearable pain that saves our lives. Complete defeat is necessary for a stubborn person, like me, who refuses to start again.

Recovery Questions Answered — Should They Be Judging Your Recovery?

Regardless whether you were in the program or not, it would be true that most humans who experience trauma need healing. The only difference between us and normies is that if we don’t heal it, we will likely use again. And if we use again, we will likely die.

Honesty — The First Step to Anywhere

You cannot heal your wounds if you are not honest about them being there or fix your problems if you do not admit that they exist. Without being honest, you cannot accept responsibility for your part in things, and without accepting responsibility for your part in things, you cannot change things.

Your Love Cannot Save Someone Who Is Destroying Themselves

When your loved one is spiritually and emotionally ill, addicted, or demoralized, your love cannot save them. When your loved one doesn’t love themselves, your love cannot save them. When they are drowning in a sea of their self-created crisis, your love cannot save them.

From Victim to Victor

No matter what you have been the victim of on this earth, you do not have to be the victim. You can be victorious. You can release the role of the victim, the betrayed and the abandoned. You can become the victor.

Honor Among Thieves

For real change to come, we have to start telling the truth — the whole truth. Not just the truth that makes us look better and not just the truth that allows us to blame the world and its people.