Writing this title, ‘A Colorless White World’, I get a sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach. With a title like this, I may generate immediate disgust by some readers. A colorless world doesn’t sound good. And as a white person, I cannot talk about anything societal in my world that is ‘not good’ because of my ‘white privilege’. Implying that I suffer from anything — especially related to race — or that anything is being forced upon me will surely be followed up by accusations of my white privilege, entitlement and ingratitude.
Category Archives: relationships
How To Leave a Toxic Relationship and Why We Stay | Tainted Love
Many of us stay long after realizing our relationship is destroying us — how to leave and why every part of you wants to stay…
Stop Putting Yourself Last
When you know that you know how to behave in a conscious way, practicing full awareness and living with an inner peace, it’s hard to understand why you lose it out of nowhere. You find yourself being reactive. After some conflict has arisen from inside of you or around you, you take a step back and look. Then, when you’re open to reality, it hits you like a ton of bricks.
America — The Change We Seek
American people have been speaking out more than we have in decades about the change we seek. If we have learned anything from the past 244 years, we have learned that nothing is more powerful than what we believe. If we don’t change what we collectively believe, the changes we make will not have a lasting effect and that which we thought we changed will manifest again — in new and often insidious ways.
The Hell Paved Road to Freedom from Addiction | A Dark Side of Recovery
When I walked in, they asked me to place all my bags on the counter for inspection. I was nervous, even though I knew I didn’t have any contraband. I pointed to my tiny glass animals from Texas — that were folded inside some clothes — so the intake nurse wouldn’t drop them as she searched my things. They were, after all, the only thing I had.
Tiny Little Pieces
I have been reflecting on life here in this country. I am thinking about all the things that so many of us wish to see and asking myself, have we given that which we wish to receive?
Toxic Relationships — How do You Know?
It’s the constant battle between the head and the heart that makes you literally have no idea what is actually going on. You earnestly pray to know what is right. You search, but you are utterly confused. Then eventually, one day you figure out, without a doubt that you are indeed in a toxic and spirit crushing relationship.
Destructive Criticism | Arguing With Your Haters Online is a Waste of Time
Successful people do not waste their time arguing with naysayers — arguing with destructive people is not constructive When I was small, all the kids in our small town wanted to go to my Granny’s house on Halloween. It was everyone’s favorite stop, and they would talk about it for weeks before the holiday. Children would evenContinue reading “Destructive Criticism | Arguing With Your Haters Online is a Waste of Time”
Destructive by Nature — Some People Build While Others Destroy
Have you ever met that person who seems to swing around like a wrecking ball?
The ones going around laying their claws into anything and everything in hopes of mass destruction?
I know you have met that person. You may even be them.
Being Used is Only Bad in Excess
When we talk about someone being used in a relationship, we usually think of it as a bad thing. Comments around people using people usually have negative connotations. No matter who you are or where your passion lies on the spectrum of human possibility, you have no reason to share your gifts, your work, or your ideas with the world — if no-one is going to use them. Being used isn’t bad. We all want to be used. What we don’t want is to be over-used, under-appreciated or under-compensated.